This weekend, I was at the Gather event with The Modern Moms Village. I was there to support Amanda with event coordination, but when one of the presenters couldn’t make it, she asked if I’d be open to sharing something.
What I felt called to speak about was energy, our life force, our prana, and how when we align and care for our own energy, it naturally supports everything around us: our physical, mental and emotional wellbeing… and the relationships within our home.
The Energy Between Us
Energy can seem abstract but it’s really the current that moves through everything – our tone, our breath, our body language. Our kids feel that energy instantly. Teenagers included! They are highly perceptive and emotionally intelligent. We might think we’re hiding our stress or frustration, but they sense it. They speak energy fluently.
So when we take the time to tend to ourselves, to align our own energy, that care ripples outward. It doesn’t just regulate us; it regulates the entire system of our home.
Co-Regulation and the Mother’s Energy
Throughout the weekend, so many experts spoke about co-regulation – how children mirror the mother’s nervous system. When we nurture our own balance, our children feel that safety too.
If a child feels dysregulated or “off,” it’s not always about something to fix in them. Often, the most powerful shift begins within us.
We are not separate. The energy that flows through us is the same life force that flows through our children. Everything circles back to unity – remembering that we are all connected, all part of one cosmos.
Modeling, Not Perfecting
Our children don’t need us to be calm all the time. They need to see what it looks like to return to calm.
It’s okay for them to see you take a breath, step outside, or say “I’m feeling frustrated right now and need a moment.” You’re not burdening them by doing this – you’re teaching them emotional intelligence through example.
When we model awareness rather than perfection, we give our children language and tools to understand their inner world.
Coming Back to Balance
Balance isn’t a fixed state; it’s something that ebbs and flows. Some days, you’ll feel centered. Other days, you’ll feel stretched thin. The goal isn’t to stay steady all the time – it’s to notice when you’ve drifted and gently return.
That’s the heart of regulation – in ourselves and in our families.
Sometimes that “return” might look like:
- A deep exhale before responding
- Stepping outside for fresh air
- Moving or shaking to release tension
- Placing a hand on your heart and saying “I’m here”
These simple actions remind your body and your energy field that you are safe and from that safety connection grows.
A Gentle Reminder
You don’t have to get it right all the time.
You just have to be aware enough to come back to yourself.
When you tend to your energy, you’re not only caring for yourself – you’re tending to your whole family’s nervous system, too. That is sacred work. That is motherhood as energy work.
This conversation reminded me how deeply connected we all are and how small, mindful shifts within us can bring harmony to our homes. May we continue to return, again and again, to that quiet place of unity within.
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