As soon as I wrote the title of this post, I giggled a little. Will people think I am talking about the type of mold that grows in damp places. Let’s set the record straignt – no, I am not talking about that mold! I am talking about the mold that we as moms try to fit ourselved into! Let me give you an example – you become a mom and your mold is “caregiver” but that mold will look different for everyone. For some it will be filled with hours of playtime, for others it will be filled with research on best ways to keep kids healthy, and for someone else it will mean to demostrate that their job is important to them because they thrive on feeling indepenent!
I think you understand where I am going with it! Motherhood, mom guilt and molds , OH MY!
I am not claiming to be an expert on this topic but I AM a mom and I do value being present with my kids and at the same time I value being myself! So this is my view and I hope it inspires you to take a look at your life journey as a mom and if my message does not resonate – GREAT! (I am learning how not to take thing personally) But if this makes you want to explore more of your personal views – then this post has done its job!
Let’s dive in! When we become moms – we have all these ideas of what we’ll do and what we would NEVER do! And I am willing to bet that if you are a mom and you are reading this, you will chuckle because you had all these grand ideas that started with “When I am a mom I will….” and then when reality hit you were like “Nah!”. That was the time when we took all these ideas about what a mom should do and how she should be and how she should NEVER BE and the mold was created – the “mom mold”. And we put ourselves into that mold! And every time we didn’t fit into that mold, we felt guilty! WELL, HELLO MOM GUILT!
So here are some thoughts to ponder:
-Did I outgrow the mold I have created for myself?
-Is the mold that I created outdated?
-Have I added to myself and to my idea of motherhood and need a new mold?
-Am I overflowing from the mold?
You are limitless! You don’t need to put yourself into the mold! Don’t compare yourself to others! You are you!
ESSENTIAL OILS: Present Time, Valor, Peace & Calming, Believe